Observations – Febuary 2002

Posted by on Feb 27, 2002 in Uncategorized

  1. Ambivalence. Everybody is ambivalent about everything almost all the time. If you respond to one side of the ambivalence you push a person definitely to the other. The harder you push, the harder they are resolved to defend their apparent position which isn’t necessarily their position at all. This difficulty is reflected in opinion polls and bad research which don’t allow people to respond on a continuum between the extremes e.g. “always” and “never”.
  2. Dying. You don’t die until you are tired of living. You become tired of living when: a) the pain won’t go away, b) you have lost all hope, c) there are no apparent solutions to a desperate enigma, d) your heart can beat no longer – it has been broken too often.
  3. Suicidal patients. I have interviewed thousands of suicidal patients but never encountered anyone who wanted to be dead if their pain, despair, confusion, alienation or entrapment could be fixed.
  4. Nidas of maturation. The young naval officer makes a deliberate 180 degree turn, from gazing over the stern to the fading sight of girlfriend and family to scanning over the bow looking for the danger and future ahead.
  5. Decision-making. The critical components of decision making are, 1) What is God doing? 2) What does He command? 3) Where are the needs the greatest? 4) What is my blueprint? 5) Can I find a partner who is going in the same direction? 6) Am I truly a pilgrim? 7) Am I reenacting unresolved tragedy? 8) do I have the resources? 9) Do I have the courage?
  6. Judgement. We will be judged, evaluated in terms of how persistently we worked to build who we were to become according to our God given blueprint.
  7. Suicidal missions. There is a relatively common desire to drive into an oncoming car. That suicidal ideation is not so different from somebody deciding to fly an airplane into a building.
  8. The demise of medicine. Medicine contributes to it’s own demise principally by tolerating “quacks”. It does so because it is not true to it’s own science and ethics.
  9. Shameful history. The world tries to bury it’s shameful history by honouring and then interring the unknown, unnamed soldier.
  10. Reenacting tragedy. A woman’s deepest hurt, which results in her greatest bitterness arising when she sacrifices a baby by abortion in order to retain a partner only to find he abandons her anyway. This produces men and self-loathing.
  11. Who to trust. Do you trust more in your eyes and ears or in someone else’s mouth?
  12. Body knowledge. Our body knows more than we let it tell us.
  13. The abortionists’ argument. The abortionist’s basic argument is that it is better to get rid of an unwanted person now because he/she may, probably will, cause trouble later. This is disgusting and they should know better. History certainly teaches that killing “troublesome” Jews, gypsies, dissidents etc. doesn’t prevent problems. It is scapegoating.
  14. Welcome. A quote from a patient, “My parents didn’t open me up with welcoming arms.”
  15. Defending Christianity. There is no need to defend the Christian religion because, 1) Christ never made a religion, 2) God’s Spirit is all-powerful, and He doesn’t need people to defend Him. Jesus Christ is absolutely capable of looking after His own church and will. He doesn’t need any church functionaries